We all have to adult, i.e., work to pay the bills and fulfill responsibilities. What a blessing if you have a career you are passionate about rather than a job you must tolerate.
According to Forbes’ website, March, 2018, a Gallup poll indicated that 70% of American workers are “actively disengaged,” putting in their time with little energy or passion and sometimes acting out their unhappiness. There are a myriad of reasons for this lack of interest in work and each individual has their own story.
People who are unhappy at work can experience an improved attitude and some stress relief if they get themselves a ‘thing’ of their own. A ‘thing’ that engages their imagination, that they eagerly spend time and money on. Call it a hobby, an avocation, a pastime, or a project, but it should be yours, something you want to do.
For most of my work years, my ‘thing’ was crafts of one type or another. Sewing, collecting and making dolls and their clothes, crocheting, silk ribbon embroidery, drawing, and occasionally, producing miscellaneous items to sell at craft fairs. These interests kept depression and hopelessness from settling in. My mind was busy learning and creating. And I scored a bonus when quilting helped me understand geometry, albeit a number of years post school.
Your 'thing' might be learning a musical instrument or a language or furthering your education or writing, which is my 'thing' now. There’s car repair, woodworking and cabinetry, leather crafting, jewelry making, computer graphics, designing websites, or playing golf. Or a good cause, like volunteering or rescuing animals or picking up trash from parks or recycling junk into usable products. Sometimes people’s things develop into new careers or their own businesses.
Having your own ‘thing’ to come home to is important for your mental health and can help you resist the urge to sit in front of the TV and snack for several hours each night.
A possible down side to having a ‘thing’ is taking time from your children and spouse. If you find this happening, get your family interested in your ‘thing.’ Or find something else where everyone can participate; a great way to get more togetherness time. Remember, you only have a few years, maybe fifteen or sixteen at most, before the kids have their own ‘things,’ which usually involve friends, not parents. When that happens, you’ll need to find your ‘thing’ for sure, before your nest is empty and the house is too quiet. Depression and loneliness will try to move in but you’ll have your ‘thing,’ or maybe a new ‘thing,’ to keep you focused and active and involved in life.